Monday, 11 July 2016

TOPICS YOU SHOULDN'T BRING UP TOO SOON IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

There are certain topics you shouldn't bring up just at the start of a blossoming relationship...give it a little more time...




1. Labels

You want to know whether you should call each other boyfriend/girlfriend (or any other term of endearment) or if you should stick to first names only.
It’s okay to be obsessed about it but keep in mind that it’s hard to put labels on a relationship. More than this, what matters most is what you feel for each other and whether or not you’re committed to making it work despite the odds. So, never corner him/her and ask, “What are we?” early on the relationship.
You may feel bad if they don't have an answer of if he gives you an answer you don’t want to hear. Either way, it won’t help you and the relationship.

2. Anything about the future

This includes moving in together, tying the knot, having kids and other things that only long-term couples should discuss.
Bringing up these topics will give them the impression that you’re in a hurry to settle down or you’re desperate so you end up rushing them into things that they have not yet decided for themselves.

3. Religious beliefs

 You don’t believe in the religious denominations that they belong to, so you decide to give him/her a piece of your mind on the next date.

It won’t end well! If faith is going to be an issue for you, it would be best to choose someone with the same faith as yours instead of trying to get them to convert to what you believe in.
However, if his beliefs don’t bother you, then go ahead and continue dating him/her. Just know that it can be a cause for future arguments.

4. Income

While how much they earn is something that you can be curious about for no particular reason, you should not ask too soon.
Let him/her volunteer the information when they're comfortable sharing it with you. This way, they won’t think that that it’s all you’re interested in.

5. Your EX!

You want him/her to know what happened to your previous relationship so they know where you’re coming from. While you definitely have a point in wanting to discuss this with them, talking about your ex and the pain they caused you in the past isn’t something that can really help what you’re trying to build now.
Aside from that, you don’t want your new flame to think that you’re still thinking about your ex and that you haven’t been able to get over him/her and what happened yet. So, even if it’s tempting, you’ll do better if you refrain from talking about them this early.
Bringing up these topics at the onset of your relationship can do more harm than good. Instead of obsessing about these little details, concentrate on working on what you have now which you can use to build a stronger bond every day.
When the relationship grows stronger than ever, you’ll find that these things don’t matter much anyway because the most important things are trust, mutual respect and undying commitment to each other no matter what.
Reference(s): youqueen.com

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